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One of things I like most about the Avett Brothers is that their lyrics really hit me, hit me in a way that sometimes reveal emotions that I don’t even realize are affecting me. They put into words what I can’t.

They change up the set list for every show so you never know what to expect. At the end of 2018 I saw them in Charlotte. When Scott came out for the encore he began to count it off, “and a two, and a three, and a four”. I instantly felt my emotions take over, fell into my seat and started balling. I guess maybe I realized there had been a problem on a subconscious level, but it wasn’t something I thought much about or analyzed. That entire year had been a particularly lonely one. It wasn’t that I was alone. I had friends, great friends. I had my family. I was just going through a season of growth in my life. Trying to figure out what I really wanted. And when they played “The Perfect Space” it was like a light bulb turned on. I couldn’t believe that in that moment, a song could make me understand what I was going through when I wasn’t even thinking about it.

I wanna have friends that I can trust,
that love me for the man I’ve become not the man I was.
I wanna have friends that will let me be
all alone when being alone is all that I need.
I wanna fit in to the perfect space,
feel natural and safe in a volatile place.

I needed people in my life that could grow with me. And maybe it was time to say goodbye to the ones that don’t get that. It was about to be a new year, a time to look forward not back, a time for a change.

You go to Avett Brothers shows to not just see the band and listen to the songs, you go because you’re chasing something. For some people it’s a song or a feeling. But for even more people it’s the connection they make with other fans. You get to hear and share stories about about how the music has changed and shaped so many peoples lives. My story? Well, I was in a relationship for almost three years when I asked my girlfriend to marry me. She said yes! We were so happy and excited. But just a few weeks later she changed her mind and ended up leaving me. That experience really kind of warped my perspective on love, and the world. It hit me hard and for the better part of 2019 I was pretty miserable. But I was blessed to be an Avett Brothers fan and have their music in my life. “I Wish I Was” helped me realize that it didn’t matter how much I loved her, she wanted me to be something different. And you know, I wish I could be different in some parts of my life. But I’m just me, I’m just a man, all I have is my love. And I wish I could have given her more, but I gave all that I had.

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“We were at odds my whole adult life. My mom didn’t like my lifestyle. She wanted me to stay close to home, but I had big dreams and moved across the country to California. We just couldn’t find a way to get along with each other for so many years. Then she had a serious medical condition that caused me to come back home. It was Alzheimer’s… I decided to stay to help care for her, and during that time she became the mother I had always wanted. She was amazing. She would listen to music with me all the time, especially my favorite, The Avett Brothers. She began to let go of terrible events in her life, like the heartbreaking divorce from my dad that she never got over. She would just talk about the good things, stories about being young, stories I’d never heard in my life.

As her condition continued to get worse she came to live with us. But just a few months later she passed away. She took her last breath as we listened to ‘No Hard Feelings’. That song, at that moment, made me feel like everything was OK. It made me feel that she left in peace, and that I could be in peace. Taking care of my mom in the end was the gift of a lifetime.”

When my body won’t hold me anymore

And it finally lets me free

Will I be ready?

When my feet won’t walk another mile

And my lips give their last kiss goodbye

Will my hands be steady?

The Avett Brothers – No Hard Feelings

Listen to No Hard Feelings by The Avett Brothers

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“The biggest connection I feel has got to be the Avett Brothers, Head Full of Doubt. As a teenager in high school, when I’m dealing with a tough situation, sometimes I over think things. Or I don’t think things through in the best way. So the first time I heard that song I was like wow, this is so awesome. I could really relate to it because it made me think about how hard it can be to sort through my thoughts when I have problems at school or with friends. And ever since then, whenever I have a really bad day, and my mind is racing, that’s been my go to song to help me get through it.”

And there was a kid with a head full of doubt

So I’ll scream til I die

And the last of those bad thoughts are finally out

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Head Full of Doubt official Video

“When I heard ‘My Last Song to Jenny’ I immediately connected to it. It was that one song, one song that I connected to, that made me go see the Avett Brothers live. And by the end of that concert I was so in love with these guys. Their lyrics just speak to you, it’s like they speak to your soul. The more I listened to them, the more I saw that the lyrics have this feeling, a feeling of real life experiences.

At that time I was in a really dark place. I was in bad relationship, and I was around a lot of negativity. I had this really strong feeling that something was going on. Nobody told me anything, but it turned out that my roommate and best friend was seeing my boyfriend behind my back. I was lost, and I just didn’t know how to feel. Songs like ‘Pretend Love’ and ‘I Would be Sad’ helped get me through that situation. I mean, I had those songs to make me realize what I was feeling about what was going on. But some of their other songs built me back up, and made me realize, hey, it’s okay, I’m going through this, but I know something better is going to come out of it. And being a part of this community, ‘Avett Nation’, I’ve seen so many other people have their own revalations through the Avett Brothers’s music. All of their songs are a story of these emotions and these life changing events. And you realize when you’re listening to them, you know, maybe I’m not the only one going through this, and feeling this. They really help you on a level that makes you realize that you’re not alone.”

I want to live
and I want you to live
happy and free
But I don’t know how
to seperate the now
from what used to be

My Last Song to Jenny – The Avett Brothers